When a guy wants to come to your house: 10 meanings (2023)

There comes a time in every relationship (well, the healthy ones anyway) when a guy wants to come over your house. But what does it actually mean when he's ready to come over? Read on and find out!

What does it mean when a guy wants to come to your house?

Guys want to come to your house for different reasons. Obviously sex is one of them, but the other meanings/reasons they want to bring to your home aren't always so transparent. Below we discuss the main things it means.

Here are 10 things it means when a guy wants to come over to your house:

1. He's ready to become exclusive with you

When a guy is ready to become exclusive with you and stops dating someone else, he wants to come over to your house. Why? He is ready to fully know the real you. He wants to see how you look at home, including how you spend your time and how you interact with your family and friends. He might also want to test your bed.

2. He wants to get to know your family

One of the main reasons a man wants to come home to you is to get to know your family. Whether he wants to introduce himself so they can bother you with who he is and constantly ask you how things are going between you two (aka blending in with your personal life), or he just wants to get a feel for it Which family you come from depends on the guy and your relationship with him.

3. He wants out of the friend zone

If a guy thinks he might be in the friend zone and he wants out, don't be surprised if he starts pointing around or directly invites himself to come over to your house. The logic floating around in his head is that once he has you alone, in a place where you are comfortable (like your own home), he can impress you with his love for the same literature/music, for who you have a passion for, or possibly just trying to take off your panties.

4. He wants to knock boots

One of the easiest reasons guys want to come over to your house, period, is to boot pat (aka bump ugly, get nasty, do the birthday costume dance... have sex). It doesn't take Edward Snowden or Elon Musk to figure out that when a guy wants to come to your house, there's a big chance he really wants to come to your house (inside you), and not just a movie sees.

5. He wants to be part of your life

Sometimes men think that the best way to be a part of your life is to be there all the time, including in your home. It may not be every day, or even every weekend, but give it an inch and it'll take it a mile before all is said and done. One day he pops in for tea and biscuits, the next for your buttery breakfast biscuits for your six kids while he sits at the head of the table waiting for his eggs and bacon.

6. He wants to get to know you better

Some guys just want to get to know you better when they ask to come over your house and hang out. Of course, when it comes to intercourse, that's just a bonus. However, there are many men, especially early in a relationship, who just want to be honest about who you are and what you REALLY care about. The best way to do this, they believe, is to observe you in your natural habitat.

7. He wants to chill with you

The term chill and Netflix exist for a reason: some guys want to come to your house and chill with you. However, it's hard to tell the difference between a serious guy who wants to chill and get to know you better and one who wants to sneak into your mom's next barbecue in your family's backyard at your invitation.

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8. He wants to become furniture in your life

Sometimes guys want to become furniture in your life, which can be good or bad depending on how you feel about them. However, if he asks to come to your house, chances are he is trying to normalize his presence in your life. Warning: once you've let him into your home, your bedroom, legs, and sanctum may be next on his list!

9. He wants to gossip with your family and friends

If a guy wants to get to know you better and maybe win a few brownie points (or steal your heart) in the process, positioning himself to gossip with your friends and family is a no-brainer for him. So if he suddenly wants to come over to your house, especially when he knows some kind of event is going on with friends and family, it shouldn't surprise you.

10. He has nothing to hide

Guys who really like you and have nothing to hide might want to come into your house at some point and see what you're really about. Also, if they really have nothing to hide and their feelings for you are genuine (they're not necessarily out for sex), you should learn as much about them as they learn about you while you're hanging out at your house.

How to react when a man wants to come to your house

When guys want to come into your house, there are a number of ways to deal with it, depending on how you're feeling about it. The five most important answers are:

1. Invite him

If you like the idea of him coming over, whether it's for Netflix and chilling, a family dinner, or to have sex, then invite him right away. Let him know you're looking forward to it too. Also, ask him to bring something if you have something in mind (drink, food, popcorn... condoms).

2. Politely decline

If a guy wants to come over to your house and you just don't feel it, politely refuse him outright. The longer you wait to tell him no, the worse off he may be. Likewise, walking around trying to come up with some silly excuse to let him down may make you feel worse. Ladies, the best thing you can do in this situation is to tell him straight up, no thanks, and that you're just not into the idea (nice and polite).

3. Ask for a rain check

If a guy wants to come over to your house and you're either busy or just not sure how it makes you feel, you can always ask him for a rain check. For those of you Youngins out here who don't remember the phrase, this means that you agree to the proposal but will defer it to another date. In this case you can make the appointment later when you are sure of your decision.

4. Giving him a hard no

If a guy wants to come over to your house and he's pushy or you just don't like the idea, you have to give him a hard no immediately. Don't let him think for a moment that you're going to buckle and let him come over. If he has even the slightest inkling that you're going to give in, he'll bug you to death with the idea until you actually make him cum just to shut him up.

5. Explain why it's not a good idea

Last but not least, if a guy wants to come over to your house and you don't have the space, time, or you're unsure, you can always just be honest and explain why it's not a good idea at the moment. Believe it or not, most guys will respect you even more for being so open and honest about things. For example, your parents don't want guests to visit the house after certain hours (just let them know!)

Signs that a guy wants to come to your house

There are several clear signs that he wants to come to your house. You may have already seen with your husband:

He gives you his full attention

When a man makes it clear that he wants to be there for you and shares his feelings with you, he probably wants to come to your house and will continue to do so. If he's always there for you and always paying attention, he may be dying inside because you invite him into your home.

He keeps asking about your plans

Guys who keep asking about your plans may be trying to fit into your schedule, including coming over to your house after work, school, or a party. If he keeps asking you what you're doing tonight, maybe he really wants to know if he can come over or not.

He wants to be exclusive with you

If a guy always asks you about your plans during a conversation, chances are he wants to be exclusive with you. That’s why he keeps wanting to know your plans so he can plan himself into them. This also includes coming to your home.

He makes you feel special

If a guy makes you feel special all the time, he probably genuinely cares about you (or at least has a huge crush/sexual attraction to you). In this case, it's a no-brainer that he'll want to move over to your home. All you have to do is ask him or wait long enough and he will likely ask the question himself.

He will do anything you ask him

When a guy does everything you ask him to and he never lets you down and always shows up when he says he will, then he definitely wants to come to your house. The thing is, he'll probably never ask. So, pay attention, ladies, and invite him!

His friends and family accept you

When a man's friends and family accept you, he probably talks about you all the time (and always with great praise). These guys are dying to hang out with you at your house, and they may ask you multiple times before you realize how much they want to be alone with you.