Does no contact work for short-term relationships? (2023)

Coach Lee answers the question, "Will no contact work for a short-term relationship that ended in a breakup?"

Be sure to watch the videocompletely throughat least once and to subscribe to Coach Lee's channel using the button below the video.

After watching the video,completeRead the following article to deepen your understanding of how no contact works for short-term relationships that ended in a breakup.

The more educated you are, what to expect, and how to react to your situation, the better your chances of getting your ex back, even after a short-term relationship.

Will no contact work if our relationship was short-lived?

I'm not naïve when it comes to the complexities of relationships and breakups.

I've been in the relationship restoration ministry for almost twenty years and have seen just about every situation imaginable.

So I don't want to sound like I took a big line or oversimplified anything when I saw that, yes, thatno contact ruleis the best response to a short-term relationship breakup.

Clients often tell me that their relationship only lasted a few months (or less) but that it was "intense".

While there is no substitute for time and history with someone, there is also no substitute for intensity, connection and passion.

It's unforgettable and can be a retreat for you if your ex isn't experiencing the same things with someone else.

Reasons why no contact can work for breaking up short relationships

Your ex firstAlsorealizes it was a brief relationship.

This means that with some time to think, your ex boyfriend or girlfriend can realize that you could move on fairly easily.

You may have begged, pleaded, and texted your ex after they broke up with you.

I get it.

I have other articles where I explain why you shouldn't, but since you're wondering how to apply the no contact rule to a short-term relationship, I'm going to assume you doalreadyknow you shouldn't have done that.

You may not have done any of this, but even if you did, it's still likely there isway to get your ex backeven if the relationship didn't have much time under its belt.

If your ex thinks about it, and they almost certainly will to some extent, there's a good chance they'll conclude that since the relationship was short-lived, you could move on pretty quickly.

It just makes sense.

Since attraction is low right now (which is the reason for the vast majority of breakups), it takes time for that realization to help you.

If you are confident that your ex felt the same intensity, passion, connection and overall potential of the brief relationship you both had, then he/she will know that he/she won't if he/she dies want to explore possibilities where you both could go I don't have much time.

This is how the principle of scarcity and even “supply and demand” often comes into its own.

This is true if youwork with your exor if youlive with your exas well as.

You have a lot of time

you really do Even if your ex gets into onerebound relationship.

We cannot allow you to succumb to scarcity or fear of loss.

You must have an abundance mentality.

Desperation and panic are not at all attractive. This is especially true at the end of a short-term relationship.

Why?

Because if that person broke up with you or didn't want to see you anymore, they don't take the relationship seriously and/or don't see a future with you.

So they're more likely to be in a place where they see the relationship as something that hasn't lasted long enough to actually have life-changing value.

That's okay, because we already knew that your ex wasn't where you wanted him to be in terms of his heart, mind, and outlook on the relationship, or he wouldn't have broken up with you!

So don't panic.

Here's the deal:

The key is to make sure you don't show your ex that you saw the relationship as bigger than he did (please read that last sentence again).

I reiterate the begging, borderline harassment, and refusal to take “no” for an answer.

This shows your ex that you don't relate to their perception of reality, which means the relationship only lasted a few months (or however long) and it wasn't long enough to be that serious.

If you demonstrate that you think it was (or is) more serious, or that he/she could have you back anytime, you are making your chances worse.

This is exactly the opposite of what we need.

What we need is for you to recognizeHow to make your ex miss youeven in shorter relationships.

That's the whole point.

Can Your Ex Miss You If Your Relationship Was Short?

Was the brief relationship interesting, fun, not cheesy, genuine, and where each of you felt equally "in" the other.

Basically, was it worth missing out on?

If so, you need to create a situation where your ex CAN miss you.

Your ex boyfriend or girlfriend can't miss you and miss the relationship if you don't leave him/her alone.

By definition, you don't allow that person to miss you.

I don't mean just for a day or two. Although it may seem difficult, I can tell you from many years of studying and researching relationships that your best chances are if you give them at least a month and a half or two.

Sometimes it takes longer.

If you've been begging and begging terribly, you'll probably have to go longer.

The race is long and in the end it's only up to you.

Actually, it's really not that philosophical.

It's just that the same rules apply to long-term relationships and short-term relationships, that there must be a negative or potentially negative consequence for the person who made the breakup.

If they believe that you will always get back easily, then there is never a reason for them to do anything.

The attraction will remain lower than before and you will be seen as their fan or worse.

Your ex is seen as a prize and you are seen as the pursuer of that prize.

The problem is that your ex wants ittheir own price.

So if you've only been together a few months, your ex must see you as someone who could have a great future with them.

Your ex needs to believe that you could move on and be with someone else.

They must feel like they might have screwed up with you and that you might even be out of their reach!

We don't want them to be absolutely sure of that, but we doAgainwant them to beaffected.

After a short romance, will your ex go through the typical phases of being disconnected?

There arestagesthat we can reasonably expect your ex to get through if you don't reach out and try to communicate with him or even his friends or with sad messages on social media.

I discuss this in great detail in articles and videos which you can find using the link above and on this site, but basically your ex will probably feelreliefright after the breakup.

If you don't try to get her back and basically just walk away (really), then your ex will start to feelcurious.

Your ex will wonder why you are not trying to get him back.

It may take a few days, but even if your ex only casually considers it, he'll probably start having a little of itIssuethat you are not chasing or trying to get them back.

It may even be that your ex wants simple ego strikes.

However, this desire for an ego prank because you want him/her back can be transformed into more.

If you show the strength that you can stay away from your ex and respect yourself enough that you don't feel like you have to stalk or persuade anyone to be with you, your ex may begin to perceive you differently.

In this case, it is likely that your attractiveness will increase in their eyes.

This is usually when your ex starts worrying that they made the wrong decision in breaking up with you.

If the relationship was short, your ex may be worried at this point that he hasn't given her enough time and that you might slip through his fingers.

That's what I mean when I talk in my videos (SUBSCRIBE me on YouTube) about “turning the table”.

Once your ex starts to feel fear of loss, or even fear of loss, it's usually just a matter of short notice that you'll hear from them one way or another.

So stay strong and let your ex come to you.

Make him/her miss you. It may not be easy, but chances are if you are reading this article that it is worth it. Be sure to get mineEmergency Departure Kitif you want to get your ex back with a weapon way more strategic than just an item. It will be your powerful (and even acclaimed) roadmap to getting your ex back.

I really wish you the best

-Trainer Lee
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