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How can you know if the guy you're dating never willsettle down with you?

You don't want to push him, but you don't want to waste your time either. It's a scary concept because if you're impatient you could lose a man who might be "the one" but if you're too patient you could lose years of your life with someone who could be everything you want ever wanted, but he doesn't want you back.

If he shows several of the following signs, he may calm down one day, but probably not with you.

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If you're official, you basically had to push him into it. That's never a good sign. Want a guy to beg to be your friend? The answer should be obvious, but so many women get it totally wrong. If a guy really likes a girl, he will lock her up as his girlfriend. He won't leave things up in the air and make room for another guy to rush in and grab them. If a man says he doesn't like labels, run!

Another way of saying that he likes things the way they are and doesn't want to take the next step is that he's waiting for time and putting up roadblocks to prevent the relationship from moving forward. He may say he can't make the effort yet because of his job, a difficult family situation, or a past relationship.

Some of these obstacles may seem perfectly reasonable and you may be tempted to give him a few more months of not putting in the effort you deserve, but remember - if he's ready for a relationship and really giving his all, he won't want to If you put up any roadblocks, he'll want to make sure he doesn't lose you.

The bottom line is, when a man is serious about a woman and wants to settle down with her, he's excited at the prospect... he's not afraid of it and fights to get out of it!

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2. He avoids future conversations

We all like a man with a sense of humor, but if he jokes when the future is discussed, or tries to avoid it, or becomes defensive, that's a very bad sign.

The key here is how long you've been seeing each other. When you're still in the early stages of dating, you don't want a guy to go overboard and talk about your future together or "future faking." That can happen because guys live in the moment. If he's really into you, he'll think about keeping you in his life, and that will come out naturally when he talks to you. The thing is, you can't put too much weight on what a guy says early on, before he's had a good chance to get to know you.

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But once you're in a relationship, you should pay a lot of attention to what he says (and doesn't say!) and talking about the future is good hesitation. He will not avoid it, he will be delighted with it!

You'll know a guy wants to settle down with you because he's making concrete plans for the distant future - a concert in a few months or a trip next year with the tickets you've bought. A guy who isn't serious about you will only talk about these things in the abstract.

3. He has baggage

Maybe he was still DJing with an ex, maybe he hasfear of commitment, maybe he is depressed or has other emotional problems. In none of these or similar cases, nothing will change in the relationship until he deals with the issue at hand

Dealing with important issues like this takes time. You may think you want to invest the time in someone who isn'tready for a relationship, but think about how long it can take to process emotional issues or fear of commitment. Do you want to put a year or two or three into a relationship that might end up not even working out?

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Once he's gotten healthy enough to settle down, there's no guarantee he'll want to do it with you. Chances are that either you're the one for him now and he's breaking away from it and being wholeheartedly there for the relationship despite his issues, or he's not ready for any type of relationship and it will be years before he does there comes . There really isn't much middle ground here.

4. They are fundamentally incompatible

If you don't have a shared vision for the future, he will sense it and refuse to settle down with you. Guys can be very pragmatic in this way.

You might want to live in the city and take advantage of the great nightlife and public transportation, while he might want to live in the suburbs with a dog and a house with a white picket fence. You want kids, he doesn't. You are of different religions and this is a problem for one or both of you. You have different values. They want different things in life.

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Even if you think any of these things isn't a big deal, it could be a big deal for him, and a guy isn't going to settle down with someone who doesn't want to live the same life as him.

Chemistry is not enough to sustain a relationship. Love is not even enough to sustain a relationship. They have to be compatible and want the same things in life.

5. He is not settled in his life

Men must settle down before they can settle down.

does he have a job does he hate it Does he feel like he is in a dead end job? Does he lack ambition or direction? These are all big signs that he won't be ready to settle down in a relationship any time soon.

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A man needs to feel like he's giving a woman something. If he is not where he should be in his career, he will turn away from a serious relationship because he feels he has nothing to offer. You can't help him with that - he has to get there on his own.

Once he's covered the basics above, you'll find he's living a more adult lifestyle overall. He'll have it all, and that means his energy will be put to good use and he'll have enough left over to pursue a relationship with you.

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6. He's just not sure about you...

This one hurts. You're sure of his cause, but he's holding back. When a man doesn't know if you're the one...when he says he needs more time...that he might know for sure later...well, that's a sure sign he won't put up with you.

Guys usually know right away. If you've been dating for several months and he's not sure if you're "the one," that means you probably aren't. Talking about it won't help, and explaining why you two are a good match definitely won't help. This is something he must instinctively feel himself.

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7. You don't feel entirely comfortable around him

The greatest character for ahealthy relationshipis if only both people canbeing. The essence of incompatibility in a relationship is that neither partner can be their true, authentic selves because they are not entirely comfortable with each other.

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If you're not entirely comfortable with it, your gut is trying to tell you something, and it's likely that it's not good for you.

If he doesn't see you as someone he wants to be with long-term, then he's probably biding his time and staying in the relationship because it's easier than going through the trauma and drama of the breakup. You'll sense that on some level, and you won't really feel comfortable around him because of it.

Being seen for who you are, and being loved and accepted for it, is the beauty of a relationship... you can't have a real relationship without it.

8. He can't let go of the party boy lifestyle

His friends are all still single and wild party animals, and even if he's holding back for you, he really wants to be with them, go out, and act like a frat boy.

For men, timing is everything. If he's not emotionally ready for a relationship, nothing will convince him to settle down. If you manage to somehow force him into it, he will annoy you tremendously and the relationship will fail.

Think about it: if he'd rather be out with the guys at the hottest party in town than stay home and cuddle with you on the couch, that's a big sign he's not ready for anything serious .

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9. He can't get through

He may tell you that he wants to deepen the relationship, but his actions don't match his words.

Just when you think things are moving, he stops. When the topic of marriage comes up, he tells you that he will propose to you as soon as XYZ comes along, but when the time comes, he has another excuse.

Or maybe you both decide you want to move in together, but then he's always too busy to go sightseeing or suddenly gets stressed about something and wants to wait for things to calm down.

If a man isn't ready to be with you, he may say the words, but he won't make them happen.

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10. He won't let you in

This applies to both his emotional space and his physical space. He doesn't open up to you, doesn't reveal himself to you, shares parts of himself that you know his friends or family can see.

You know he needs to let you in when it comes to sharing his feelings and communicating with you, but letting you in applies to his physical space as well.

Maybe he doesn't make room for you in his apartment. Does he get upset if you forget things there? Doesn't he make room for your stuff in the closet? Is his home completely open to you or are certain places forbidden? If he keeps you away from certain areas of his home, it means he's probably holding back.

When a guy wants to settle down with you, he opens his space and his heart — he shares his Netflix password, as well as his deepest hopes and fears.

11. He downplays relationships with others

This is an important red flag. If he's into it, he'll be proud of you and want to show you off. If he downplays you or your relationship with his friends and family, it means he doesn't mean business.

If a guy wants to settle down with you, his friends and family will know all about you because he can't stop talking about you. When you're integrated into his life, it's only natural that he'd talk about you when he talks about his life.

When a guy doesn't want to settle down, he gives minimal, if any, details to friends and family. Your gut might feel like something is wrong... like you're disconnected from his life and the things he loves, like an invisible wall is preventing you from getting too deep into his life and heart.

No matter how much you want or love someone, if they're unwilling, unable, or desire to eventually introduce you and include you in their closest relationships, that's a strong sign that they're not settling down with you want .

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12. He told you he doesn't want to settle down

This seems so obvious, but for some reason most women choose to ignore that glaring red blink.

ifHe says he doesn't want a relationship, believe him! When he says he never wants to get married, believe him!

Don't make the mistake of thinking that you will change his mind because you won't. He knew his thoughts well enough to tell you clearly where he stands, and any changes that stick are driven by him, not you. If you try to pull him towards you, he'll just walk the other way.

If you take any of these away, let it be: When a guy says he doesn't want to settle down now, it more often means he doesn't want to settle down with you.

It's also possible that he never wants to settle down at all. It doesn't matter which is the case and it's not your job to find out. Look out for these signs and be strong enough to move on when the need arises so that you will be available when the right one comes along - a man as excited as you are to settle down and start a life together.

After reading this article I hope you are clear on the signs that a man will never settle down with you. If you want a loving, lasting relationship, you need to be aware of two key moments in any relationship that will determine whether or not you get the love you want. Eventually, your guy will start to withdraw and lose interest. He doesn't react that way to you, he's not that into you and it feels like you're losing him... do you know what to do in this situation? If not, you might be making one of the biggest relationship-destroying mistakes many women unknowingly make. Read this now so you don't fall into this trap:When he retires, do this...

The next problem you need to get away from is that at some point your husband is wondering, is this the woman I want to spend my life with? His answer will determine the fate of your relationship. You know what inspires a man to get involved and what makes a woman stand out in his eyes? If not, you need to read this now:The No. 1 wish of a man in a woman

Biggest Signs He'll Never Put Up With You:

1. He likes things the way they are
2. He avoids future talks
3. He has baggage
4. They are fundamentally incompatible
5. He hasn't arrived in his life
6. He's just not sure about you...
7. You don't feel entirely comfortable around him
8. He can't let go of the party boy lifestyle
9. He can't get through
10. He won't let you in
11. He downplays relationships with others
12. He told you he doesn't want to settle down